Hi Charlotte. You state, “Certainly if one is a trans person, stating such from the get go is essential, honors self-integrity as well as that of the other.” Believe me, that is an issue every trans person wrestles with, but it is not nearly as simple as that. Should I wear a sign around my neck saying “Sex Change. No Joke. I’ve had one.” to honor my self-integrity and that of others? (Actually, I have a t-shirt that says exactly that, but it is not what I wear on a first date.) If a person transitioned at age 14, and now they are age 50, do they still need to state that from get go? That sure gets tiresome. If a person has a prosthetic limb, do they have to state that from the get-go? That could be a big shocker the first time they get naked together. How about an STD? A major one or a minor one? It is the “from the get go” part that I have a problem with. Some things are just better discussed at different points as the relationship deepens, if it every gets that far. I feel you have a good heart, Charlotte, and I thank you for being on a journey to understand more about gender and sexuality!